For the (self)love of cheese!
We typically go to this favorite so we can put things on a plate and get right down to the nitty gritty - you know, the dishing. We end up eating way too much as we talk and chew...talk and chew...until there is one piece of cheese left. Not one of us touches it because, let's face it, who wants to be the SELFISH one eating the LAST morsel of decadent cheese?
As I pondered secretly scoring that last morsel for myself, it occurred to me that Monday Lunch itself could be considered selfish. I mean, we take an ENTIRE afternoon and do nothing but eat, sip tea, and talk! That's selfish!
There is a difference between being selfish and self-aware. Selfish behavior is born of pure ego without regard for others. Being self-aware is striking that delicate balance between what you need with the stated needs of another. In this day and age, claiming what we need (like our space or time) may seem selfish because we are connected in every way, every day! We are bombarded with critics who openly judge our actions.
Self-awareness is knowing that time to connect with friends, time alone, or making time to engage in anything that creates happiness is time well spent. Such self-awareness actually relieves our anxiety, makes us more creative, and ensures better health. Being self-aware benefits the good of all - even if it means letting the house stay messy for one afternoon.
Being selfish is totally eating that last piece of cheese!
Peace and Light, The Busy Buddha
talk back to the trio
How do you practice self-awareness?
Are there times when it is okay to be selfish?