Sharing recipes and life lessons from the special women who have forged our path to Monday Lunch.
Meet Grandma T.
Yes, life is all about growing and adapting, much like the way I have adapted this dish to resemble one my grandmother used to make out of spaghetti, chicken stock, and veggies from her fridge. She called it Fabulous Bami; Rachael Ray calls it Spaghetti with Saffron Sauce. [Find Recipe Here] . I have no idea what inspired my grandmother’s recipe (this recipe was not written down), but I do know that she froze every leftover and used almost everything. Somehow this trait has lives on in me because my Trio friends joke that I can make a gourmet meal out of the contents of my purse!
But a few months after her nuptials, prompted by the attack on Pearl Harbor and the threat of war, her husband, my grandfather, enlisted in the Air Force. The ensuing tumult of being a military wife during World War II and beyond began to rip at the seams that held her stability together. Countless moves, few close friends, three young children, and a husband gone more than he was home began to stitch together a reality that, to her, became unrecognizable.
Eventually, she understood that the sum of small adjustments she had made to accommodate her husband’s career and her idea of the social roles at the time led her to a far larger compromise. Over the years, she had sewn up and packed away her own feelings, dreams, and desires.
Despite negative social and religious implications, she quietly left my grandfather. It was necessary for her, but that kind of self-assertion was not supported in the late 1950s. Regardless of the stigma, she did it anyway.
The road to self-reliance and happiness was lonely, hard, and almost impossible, but she triumphed. In her quiet way, she slowly came to understand who she was, what she wanted, and how to live.
As I read the carefully handwritten pages of her journals, her story resonates. As mothers, wives, and busy people in a busy world, it is all too easy to get “lost” in our daily routines and self-imposed expectations.
Maybe her story is just a little reminder that despite familial and societal roles we all have unique opinions, desires and dreams for the future.
They are yours.
And the world needs you to be honest about that.
Light and Peace,
The Busy Buddha
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