Savor A New Perspective
After all, French Toast is meant to be a sweet breakfast food, not a savory lunch food. Sometimes looking at something in a new way is difficult. We just can't get our minds around the idea that a different version of something could be good.
This reminds me of parenthood lately. I must confess, I've been in a bit of a funk. It's one of those phases where I just don't feel like I'm getting it right. I keep trying the same strategies over and over again and wondering why they don't work. Things feel hard.
I'm finding myself looking at my kids often and wondering, why aren't you listening? Why don't you just do what I've asked you to do? How many times do I have to tell you? I'm sure they hear the teacher on the old Charlie Brown cartoons in their heads when I'm talking....wah wah wah wah.
I'm just not getting through and yet I'm also not quite ready to embrace any new strategies for tackling these challenges. Kind of like my Monday Lunch buddy not being ready to tackle a savory version of something that's meant to be sweet.
My friends recently commented that my kids are "easy." I felt a little defeated as I wondered if my kids are easy, why does parenting still feel hard? I must be doing something wrong. Which I am. I am not seeing things in a new way, I'm being a slow learner.
He thought we should see suffering not as a liquid that fills the heart to a certain level, some claiming greater suffering than another. Instead, he believed suffering was a like a gas that would spread out and fill the heart completely no matter the amount. It's painful, whether caused by something monumental or something seemingly small.
Now, I am the first to say that with parenthood comes great joy. However, if we're honest about it we all suffer as parents as well. We worry. We stress. We wonder what in the world our kids are thinking. We feel our children's pain and wish we could take their place.
I also believe that as parents we experience this whether our kids are easy or hard, artsy or athletic, social butterflies or loners, straight A students or just struggling to pass. Whatever categories we want to put them in the fact is, they are our kids, we are their moms and sometimes that's a very tough job.
The good news is suffering can be something that brings us together. We can look at another mom and say, "You're not alone! I get it!" We can also use the struggles of others to snap us out of our own funk and help us embrace a new way of seeing things. We can be inspired as we watch another mom overcome great challenges.
Once we're ready to learn we can move beyond the suffering and feel the fulfillment of a new perspective. How about making up a plate of Savory French Toast to celebrate your new way of seeing things...if you're ready (I tried it and it was a hit with the whole family). Until then, be patient with yourself and grab the syrup!
The Simplicity Buff
What is your strategy when you enter into a parenting funk?
How are you kind to yourself when things just aren't working?