FIND THE RECIPE HERE!
Isn’t that true for people too?
Beneath the exterior or our clothing, our careers and our volunteer work is our essence, the unique characteristics and qualities that make each of us, well, us. What I find especially fascinating is that while our exterior can change from time to time, our essence is unwavering.
The trick is staying aligned to your essence in a busy world full of distractions.
I suggest you ask yourself these three questions (ahem, using my best teenager voice):
Whaddya here for?
I first heard these questions in crackling staccato by a lanky junior high student with dark hair, a sharp wit and a mischievous glint in his eye. He came to my classroom daily for homework help and was never particularly thrilled to be there. I’m pretty sure school was not his jam but we made the best of it.
The thing that impressed me most about this young man was his natural way of being. His essence was clear. He was an outdoorsman, didn’t mince words, and knew what he liked – and what he didn’t. He was also very kind and genuine. At least, that’s what I remember from all those years ago.
Those are the quirky teacher memories that have stuck with me long after leaving the classroom.
That particular voice and that particular tag line have stuck with me for decades. I usually hear them in my head when I am embroiled in a big life change or thinking deeply about something. Sometimes, I will blurt them out to friends over coffee.
Who knew these spontaneous and simple words would be so meaningful to me all these years later?
Whaddya want? Whaddya need? Whaddya here for?
If you want to reconnect with your essence, answer with the truth.
Allow me a cheesy metaphor.
(Seriously, am I the only one laughing?)
In this particular recipe, there are three components: The topping, the outer crust and the fillet.
The topping depends on what you want. Would you like sprouts, arugula, or watercress? It sounds a lot about how we chose what we want in life. Do you want to play in the symphony? Play volleyball? Jump out of an airplane? Serve at the soup kitchen? The topping is zesty and delicious and brings depth to the overall dish. What you want adds spice to your life.
The crunchy outer layer is delicious and forms a crust to seal in flavor and goodness. It mirrors beautifully what we need. What do you need to feel hopeful, invigorated and protect your spirit? Quiet time? Time in nature? A spa weekend? By finding ways to care for ourselves we gently safe guard our inner essence.
The fillet nourishes our body and soul. It is the essence. Without essence, we have no want or need. Therefore, the fillet is our reason for being or what we are here for.
Recently, I have been pondering these questions (again):
What I want is for my words to be of benefit to all. Whether spoken or written, may what I have to say spark meaningful conversations and inspire new perspectives. I want to think deeply, spend time in nature, be with my family, and have lots of fun along the way.
What I need is to keep trying out different opportunities and adventures to note what feels right. I need quiet time to reflect, time to write, and time to be an engaged wife and mother. I also need a bath every night surrounded by a mountain of eclectic books and magazines.
I am here for the learning. I am here to make meaning of this life, learn intriguing and important lessons, and do my best to make this world better, not worse.
Ask yourself these three simple questions.
Ponder your answers.
They will lead you to your essence.
And what of the young, lanky boy who started all of this?
From what I hear, he grew into quite a young man with the same passion for nature and doing the things he loved. Sadly, he died in a sky diving accident just a few years ago. I don’t know this for sure, but I like to think he probably knew all along what he wanted, what he needed and what he was here for.
Thanks for the life lesson, kiddo.
I hope your words will be of benefit to all.
And so, the student became the master.
Peace & Light,
The Busy Buddha
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How do you honor the essence of who you are?